May 7, 2011
i've moved to tumblr.
Goodluck finding me.
Goodbye.
Posted at 01:41 am by shirles
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Feb 17, 2011
well... my dog is knocked out right next to me...
today i got a haircut and i got to talk to some friends i havent talked to in a while...
then i went to mus house and i went with him to watch him try on his suit then we went to target to get a wedding present for ryan!!! who is getting married this weekend!!!!
after that i went to amys and saw michael... hes getting sooo big.. it makes me kind of sad cause i remember when he was still a tiny little baby... when he first saw mu he just ran up and hugged him and after that he just went crazy! running around.. toouching everything.. TALKING.. showing off! such a cute little boy! he was watching kailan...cause he loovess it...
it was so cute though.. when me and mu were leaving he looked down to the floor and was like NO! NO! NO WAY! NO NO NO
he didnt want us to leave :( and he started crying.. it was so sad and cute at the same time
i love that little boy.. ive never watched someone grow before and its just so cute
Posted at 12:57 am by shirles
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Feb 14, 2011
for a week i saw this facebook group of this student from ucr missing...
he was last seen leaving a pub or something.. and then no one saw him again
when me and mu went to the aquarium today we were by the ocean and he told me how that student was found in the water.. i dont know why but i just felt this rush of sadness that went over me.. i mean i know anyone would.. but usually it wouldnt bother me this much if i didnt know them... its really sad... the article said he drowned and now theyre testing to see if he was drunk...
did he not have friends with him?
i dont know.. just thought it was sad
Posted at 10:05 pm by shirles
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Feb 11, 2011
chinese new year just passed...
theres been a subject thats been brought up a lot at work. i guess it was about parenting... there was an article from yahoo being passed around. and it was this chinese lady talking about the difference between parenting in a traditional chinese families... or traditional families in general.. and american families. this mom was talking about how she never allowed her kids to watch tv and so on and how they have to do homework, know how to play the piano or violin, and succeed in school and all that bunch. then she gave an example on how this one time one of her daughters did not know how to get her two hands to play different keys on the piano and they spend a whole 24 hour day screaming at her disciplining her till the daughter got her two hands to play different keys.. and she said she did all that because she believed her daughter could do it and all that crap..
from what i know... MOST traditional families.. epecially chinese families.. you get hit when you dont want to do anything that youre told to do.. or you dont do it the way you want them to..
honestly...
i dont see how all those abuse can help.. yeah that lady said its cause the parents want the best for their kids but i think they physically and verbally abuse their children so much for years that the children are so determined on that one path of life their parents plan out for them that they dont realize how mentally damaged they are... their success is the only thing keeping them sane.
will someone please explain to me how screaming yelling and hitting = family?
well
in my personal experience... i dont think i can ever force my children to do things they dont want to do.. well it depends on the situation.. but like those after school programs and shit like that... when i was little my mom forced me to go to after school programs that i HATED so much.. i absolutely hated it... because i always had someone breathing down my neck and not only did i have to do my own homework but i had to do their homework too.... i got so fed up with it that i just didnt do my homework or their homework all together and i got kicked out cause of that.. and i was GLAD i did that. never again did my mom force me to do anything else in that category... i remember in first grade there was a book my mom made me read but somehow i just couldnt get some of the words right.. and we sat in the dining room for hours and hours and hours trying to get it right... each time i didnt get it right she would hit my hand extremely hard.. i remember that night clearly cause it was horrible and it was painful... i dont think i can ever put my kids through that...
i mean look at how i ended up.. HA
my moms better now.. shes not all traditional and shit and i think its cause she realized that pushing me is not the way to help me succeed but its only making me rebel... shes never been more proud cause im doing so well in school and everything i can do...
as you can see my mind wanders and sometimes my blog is just random and all over the place and i guess my essays used to be like that... and my mom hired a friend from church to help me out and guide me on how to reorganize my essay... and she taught me for like 3 days and that was enough... i didnt have to do it everyday for months.. it was awesome.. i got my help and did my thing and i never saw the lady again unless there was a church event. thats what i like! if i need help ill just ask for help and you can help me...
i mean look how good i am in math and no one helped me in that... and now im really good at writing.. even though it may not seem so with my blogs and stuff.. but this is just free writing not some academic stuff
so anyway i think my whole point is that i dont think being physically and verbally abusive is going to help your children in anyway... i think all parents really care about is how much their kids can scucced and how well they can DO things and the things they DO has to be a certain way... its all about do do do do do do do... what i dont think they really care about is how it damages them mentally...
and knowing that a kid that is a part of me will most likely not like being pushed beyond the limit as much as me....
im tired my stuff probably sound confusing and stuff
but i just had to get it out cause it was bothering me...
goodnight
Posted at 12:03 am by shirles
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Jan 27, 2011
So i think this is my first entry of the year..
Temper trap is really relaxing...
Im blogging from my phone cause im too lazy to wait for my computer to load...
Last year there was a whole thing going on on facebook about this girl that a couple of my friends knew and shes in jail.. along with her mom.. cause of their documents or something and they were going to get deported... but that girl had a younger sister that's a citizen here so now she's left all alone... and there is that girls boyfriend who wrote a whole petition to try to get them out of jail... and tons of people signed it but it didnt work anyway...
SO HERE IS THE INTERESTING PART
This guy has their house and the cars so he can watch after the little sister which means he's responsible for her... just last week... this idiot guy drove the moms suv DRUNK with some friends and he totalled that shit and crashed into another car ... 4 of his friends flew out of that suv and two of them died...
I don't understand how people can do that ... well they're drunk so they're just dumb as hell but i just don't understand...
So this guy gets arrested for dui and then now he's in jail and being charged for manslaughter ... and he crashed a car that wasn't his ... and now that poor sister is all left alone cause her sisters boyfriend decided to be an irresponsible dumbass.
Its always the drunk drivers that survive... but i guess that's life making it difficult for them cause they'll have to live with the consequences of their dumb decisions.
Also... im sorry and no offense... but WHY WOULDN'T YOU WEAR A SEATBELT... that probably would've saved your life
Its sad....
Posted at 01:54 am by shirles
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Oct 18, 2010
the 3 year old boy + pasadena + 2 dumb parents
this really adorable looking 3 year old went missing on saturday night i think.. in pasadena...
here is what i dont get
the little boy and his parents were at a wedding... and the dad.. who is DRUNK already.. walked out of the wedding and the little boy followed.. and the mom knowing that the dad is drunk.. wasnt worried about her son cause she thought he was with the dad?!?!?! HELLO!!!! is she dumb?! not even me.. whos not a mom btw.. would never ever think my child is going to be fine with an drunk adult that i trust... and they were gone at like 10 pm.. and she started panicing at 8am the next day???? if i were ever a mom i dont think i could go to sleep the same night if my husband/boyfriend and child dont come home... i dont get it.. like i dont get what the mom is thinking... or maybe she was drunk herself
but anyway they ended up finding the boy in the fathers van parked in some random place that the father doesnt even remember... YEAH! he lost his own van and child cause hes a drunk dumbass
i felt bad for the little boy though cause who knew where the hell he was when he went missing.. like he mustve been so scared... i felt bad for the mom at first cause i wouldnt even think how it would feel to not be able to find your child.. then i read the rest of the article and realized how dumb her and her husband is.. or boyfriend.. and it just made me SUPER mad..
i cant sleep
Posted at 01:21 am by shirles
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